Conny Jasper

Archive for March 2013

The world is an expansive place with patterns that are way beyond our command. Therefore, it is wise to accept and act within the circumstances of all situations. To do so is empowering. When you are able to work with, rather than against, the given conditions, you have more freedom.

To work against things as they are only creates more constraint. The objective is to see your way through the maze, not to entangle and trap yourself. This requires the ability to determine how best to tackle and accomplish what can be done.

The key is to let go of judgment regarding the circumstances and take conscious and appropriate action. Be aware of your timing, move forward with poise, and proceed fastidiously.


Return on investment is what you get back from what you have provided. When you spend time and money on a particular venture, the expectation is to be rewarded for your efforts.

The phrase “return on investment” is normally applied to monetary gain. However, investments can take on and result in other guises. Certainly, money puts food on the table and a roof over your head. But once your basic needs are taken care of, life is multi-dimensional.

Return on investment can assume a greater meaning. Personal fulfillment is a vital part of being alive and getting something out of your life. Aside from earning money, what is it that feeds your soul and makes you feel whole? How can you achieve that and obtain a gratifying return on your investment?

Everyone has a direction that they follow. And everything has a process through which it unfolds. That is the natural course of life.

How that direction happens, and how the process unfolds, in your life, is up to you. We all have a plan that we follow, consciously or unconsciously. When we give it a structure and a specific orientation, we can achieve great and masterful things.

With so many different kinds of communication in today’s world, it is important to get to the point. You cannot afford to dilute your message or waste your time. Neither should you waste someone else’s time.

When you say too much or are too vague, you can lose the other person’s attention or you can cause confusion. This is not what you are trying to achieve. Think about what you want to happen.

Successful communication is about accomplishing what needs to be accomplished. When you are clear about what you are saying, the other person is more likely to understand you. When the other person understands you, you are more likely to get the results that you want.

We all define freedom differently. While one person claims to have great freedom, another person claims to have very little. This means that perception is a major factor in how autonomous one feels.

The truth is that we all live within the parameters of a societal structure. The world is a big place with many different social and political circumstances. Every geographical area has its collective way of doing things. And it is within this context that we experience our own sense of liberty.

Each personality has a unique way of being in the world. One person feels comfortable with strict rules and structure, and another person feels smothered by this. Naturally, there are variations within this spectrum.

For the most part, freedom depends on the choices one makes within the boundaries of where one lives. So I ask, does freedom begin in one’s mind, or does it begin in the outside world?

“By interpreting freedom as the propagation and immediate gratification of needs, people distort their own nature, for they engender in themselves a multitude of pointless and foolish desires, habits, and incongruous stratagems. Their lives are motivated only by mutual envy, sensuality, and ostentation.” ~ Fyodor Dostoyevsky

Our culture is built on a system of edginess, where we live in a sphere of social, economic, and political pressures. Some people thrive on this environment, while others detest it. Those who detest it desire a more ethical, balanced system where everyone treats each other with fairness and respect.

Regarding others in a healthy and positive way includes behaving with a certain measure of generosity. We give our time, our empathy, and occasionally some of our resources. However, there are times when others see this as a weakness rather than as a strength, and they take advantage of our generosity. That is why we also have to have good, solid boundaries. When you are able to give to others without giving away your power, it is an empowering experience for you.

You can be generous without being weak as long as you act with integrity, maintain your limits, and communicate with courtesy. This entails being true to yourself and not going past your own sense of security. It also involves paying attention to your own thoughts and feelings about the situation and not expecting others to respond and act the way you want them to. Being generous means being kind while knowing that you are not in control of someone else’s behavior.


Whatever ventures you occupy yourself with, it is always exciting and interesting to come up with new and innovative ideas. This applies to everything we do in life, from discovering a better way to clean something, to another way of accomplishing a task, to a fresh idea for an art project. Trying new things and improving your efforts can keep you from getting stuck in a rut. Yet every new endeavor has its foundation in what you have already done.

No matter how far you go or how high you climb, it is always essential to remember the basics. It is the fundamental aspects that arrange the groundwork for growth and expansion. Without the basics, you cannot successfully get from point A to point Z. The stronger your foundation is, the stronger is your ability to accomplish your goals.