Conny Jasper

Archive for September 2013

Everyone has an ego. The ego is one’s sense of personal esteem. Your ego is a central part of your personality. It is what guides you and makes your place in the world.

Your ego is also the guardian of your life and your experiences. It is a force that holds you together. The ego performs its job quite wonderfully when it is balanced.

We run into problems when the ego is not balanced and it goes too far in one direction or the other. An under-developed ego results in low self-esteem. An over-developed ego results in arrogance.

By cultivating a composed ego, you will create well-being for yourself and for others as well.


There is power in more and there is power in less, depending on how they are applied. For example, there is power in more self-discipline and power in less self-indulgence. And there is power in more confidence and power in less insecurity.

However, as with everything in life, there has to be a sense of balance. Too much more, or too much less, creates a precarious situation. You have to know what the limits are.

You can achieve high goals, but they need to be set within realistic parameters. Genuine empowerment comes from knowing and respecting the boundaries.

Mindfulness is an excellent habit to cultivate and maintain. The practice of mindfulness is also the best way to rid yourself of unwanted habits and create more desirable habits.

Mindfulness is beginners mind, because it is the place where we start. It is an attitude of receptiveness that one acts to sustain at all times.

Undoing old habits and creating new habits is facilitated by mindfulness. By being consistently aware of your thoughts and actions, you can slowly dissolve undesirable patterns and incorporate self-improvements.

It is cliché to say that no two people are alike. But it is a fact that no two people will see things the same or be in complete agreement about everything.

Differences are natural. So it is natural when two people have conflicting interests. The challenging part is how both of you handle the situation.

The immature approach is to threaten, manipulate, scream, kick, or throw things around. Does this work well? No.

The mature approach is to speak clearly and effectively from the soul. At the same time, one communicates with caring and patience. The result is a more effective and balanced resolution. And that facilitates better relations.

Some people think the law of attraction is a bunch of hokum. Other people believe in it so fervently that it is dogma for them.

Yes, the law of attraction is real. However, it is not as simple as stating, visualizing, and acting on what you want. Indeed, there is more to it than that.

The basic principle of the law of attraction is that we attract whatever we focus on and project. So, for example, if you focus on making a lot of money, you will make a lot of money.

Yet the issues that present themselves are a little more complex than simply making a lot of money. Why do you want to make a lot of money? How do you want to attract a lot of money? How much is a lot of money? What will you do with a lot of money?

These same kinds of questions apply to just about anything you want to attract. In addition, if you are not attracting what you think you are focusing on, you need to evaluate and assess the reasons for this.

While the law of attraction has a basic premise, it is actually a complicated process. If life were easy, it would be easy.

Contrary to popular belief, music does not always soothe the savage soul. Sometimes it incites the savage within.

In actuality, it is harmonious music that soothes the savage. It is much easier to feel calm and centered when the music is concordant or uplifting. In comparison, music that is discordant or morose creates tension or melancholy.

This is how it is with the music of life. The sounds and vibrations we are subjected to have an influence on our physical and mental states. When we are aware of this factor, we can create better situations for ourselves that promote health and well-being.


Networking is a much publicized career and business practice. This is because there are a lot of good reasons to network, and it adds to your social and professional stability.

Connecting with other people has two purposes. One purpose is for personal support and leisure. The other purpose is for career and business development.

In networking, it is important to do what is right for you and works best for you. However, one of the points to keep in mind is to be somewhat selective. Most often, the best approach is not to try to make as many connections as possible, because you may be spreading yourself too thin.

While you want to have a wide variety of contacts, you also want to focus on the right contacts. The purpose is not to build a huge list of connections but to make associations that work.