Conny Jasper

Archive for October 2014

One of my favorite activities is to walk around graveyards and look at gravestones. It is interesting to note the different styles of headstones and the various inscriptions and decorations.

It also makes me feel humble and reminds me that everything is impermanent. Everything that happens after you are gone is completely and forever out of your control.

But you do have control over what is happening right now. This life that you are living, at this moment, is the one chance you have to create the best possible situation you can for yourself.


Yes, it is. It is one or the other and it is both. It depends on how you concentrate your attention and energies.

Those who focus on danger will encounter the treacherousness of danger, and those who focus on safety will encounter security.

There are many who do not accept this fact, because of early experiences. But past experience is not the reality of the present moment.

If you want the world to be dangerous, it will be. If you do not, then it will not be. Make it what you want.

The strong ties you have in your life are part of what give you stability. We all have people, situations, or things that provide comfort and support.

While these bonds are essential to our lives, they also have their limitations. They tend to reinforce our experiences and what we already know.

So if you are looking to improve or expand your experience, seek novel and innovative information outside of your comfort zone. Sometimes it is the more unique experiences in life that propel us forward.

Everyone has their own concept of what success is for them. Success may be interpreted as a large bank account, a wide social network, a great career, or any other achievement.

Ultimately, success is what gives you peace of mind. When you have a regular feeling of inner peace, then you have achieved the quintessential goal.

As things shift in our personal lives, we are confronted with transitions that upset the established order of things. Instead of feeling threatened or lost, we can find ways to adjust and re-create a sense of order.

During times of change, you need to keep your head clear and not get sidetracked. There is always a way to make change work for you.

One of the reasons we have difficulty moving forward is that, deep down inside, we feel unable to do so. Though it can be hard to admit, we fear that we will be incompetent in achieving our goals.

So we stay where we are, even if we do not like it.

But it is the fear that holds us back, not any actual inability to do what needs to be done. 99 times out of 100, the problems that need to be solved can be solved.

All it requires is some understanding, patience, and persistence. Naturally, you have what it takes to move forward and attain your goals.

Our brains and bodies become acclimated to certain ways of doing things. We become mentally, emotionally, and physically connected to what we have experienced.

And this is never simple to change. Old patterns are like old friends.

So it is important for us to honor those old friends as we move on in our endeavors.

Letting go of old ways does not mean severing our ties to where we came from. It means living more in the moment.

Doing things a new way is just being yourself but better.